Define thyself

Bit of an oddball post here (let’s be honest, all of my posts are oddball posts. Oh well), but one inspired by years of hearing brilliant, capable people define themselves by what they are not. How often do we celebrate who we are, what our accomplishments are, what we can do? The closest approximation is writing a resume or a bio, which I find a tedious exercise: when you are working on a such self report, you’re trying to attract the attention of another person or organization. The act becomes less about you, and more about someone else.

I heard things like: I’m not a(n)…, I’m no expert at…, I’m not a good at…

And I keep thinking: Goodness, friends, you are so good at what you do! You find the motivation to keep growing every day. You don’t need to be a professional to claim that you do, in fact, do something! No caveats needed.

At the same time, I am also guilty of defining myself by what I am not. Thus, I decided to do a small, self-imposed exercise: to name ten things that I am or do and enjoy, even if I’m not good at it. Here are my ten things:

  1. I am proudly woman, and for women.
  2. I am a supportive partner and friend, and a loving daughter
  3. I am, for the most part, a nice person.
  4. I am an adaptable communicator.
  5. I am human and try my darnedest to be open-minded. I welcome constructive criticism. 
  6. I am an excellent note taker/doodler. My specialty is stick figures.
  7. I am an innovative home chef.
  8. I am someone who seeks to conquer my fears.
  9. I am a world traveler. And I want to travel more. All the time. 
  10. I am a lover of puppies. (We are so ready to add a doggo to our family)

It was a very simple exercise that took me all of 5 minutes, if that, to write down. However, I found it a happy confidence boost to do this, and encourage you to do the same as well. Celebrate who you are!

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